I grew up working construction jobs during summer school vacations. It kept me fit and was mostly outdoors, so I was well-tanned early. The one thing I remember about the affluent new neighborhoods I usually worked in was that there were always older (30+) women around to offer cold refreshments or a place to find shade from the heat, especially if I was assigned a task that left me by myself.

I turned down the more blatant offerings, as I did the attention I often got from some friends' mothers. However, that was not from any sense of morality, but a desire to not become involved with anyone who was supposed to be committed to a spouse. In fact, one of my early experiences was with a young teacher in my high school who was single and, I soon found, bisexual. Our "arrangement" ended when the school year began, as agreed to from the beginning, and we never acknowledged our relationship to anyone.

That was a summer I remember fondly in my old age. It also prompted me to not participate in the unhealthy "conquest seeking" that consumed so many and formed their early concept of sex. I would not deny a similar experience to a female but would advise that it be equally detached from emotional involvement and discrete (and always with protection). Being good at sex requires more instruction than can be achieved by two people who are equally inexperienced and inept.